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International Women's Day Newborn Sisterhood Sleep deprivation Tribe

As it approaches my youngest daughter's birthday (International Women's Day. 8th March), I can't help but feel nostalgic. I remember back to when each of my children were newborns. I have to admit I love the newborn stage, but there is only so long that I can last on very limited and broken sleep on a daily basis.  I struggled for the first 12 weeks with C when she was born. It was as if she was allergic to sleep, turns out she had silent reflux. K and E were fantastic for the first 12 weeks and then flipped it around. K only started sleeping through a month before E was born. E now sleeps through most nights but will still wake up on a regular basis.

Living away from the friends and family that I grew up with, I had to find a new tribe, although I still had my online tribe. When C was born, we lived in a city that I didn't know that well. I was lucky if I recognised my neighbours and maybe, we might say hello and smile. I attended loads of baby groups so that we would have an excuse to go out and talk to people. It can be so lonely as the mum of a  newborn. When she was 4 months we moved house. I felt that I needed to try even harder to settle into our new community. After all, this was going to be our home for the foreseeable future. I had to throw myself again into meeting new people. Luckily, where we moved to was very family friendly and had loads of other mums in the same situation. I could use C to hide behind and use her as an excuse to talk to other people. It's really not easy to make new friends as an adult. And with that I got to meet some great people. 

K was born when C was 16 months old. And like I said, I love the new born stage. I personally find it the easiest stage. Although you have to find your own groove. You are inundated with help, love and support. But then this begins to fade. This began to fizzle out as I needed the help the most. Although I didn't feel like I was able to ask for help. Luckily, a dear friend came round to visit and recognised that on this particular day I was really struggling with lack of sleep. I remember that I felt that I could barely function nevermind string a sentence together. She sent me to bed so I could rest. I never would have been able to ask someone to watch my 2 children under 18 months while I went for a nap! Those 60 minuets where glorious. I was a brand new person when I woke up. Afterthat, I never asked her or anyone else to watch my children so I could rest again.

When K was 22 months old, he became a big brother. I now had 3 years and 6 weeks between my girls. E was born on International Women's Day 2017. I really struggled to recover physically from this c-section. It took a lot longer than my previous sections. With that in mind, my parents stayed longer to help me out more. Alas the day came that they had to return to the Emerald Isle. But 3 children in, I was more confident in my own ability and with this confidence I knew when I needed help. I was able to ask my tribe for a helping hand and support. Each time, they were coming out in their droves willing to assist me.

I will be forever grateful to those ladies who I know will always have my back. They aren't necessarily all on my doorstep, or even in the same country. But they are always there for me. I would like to think that if ever any of them needed me that they would just ask. But if it wasn't for that one recognising that I wasn't coping and forcing me to take time for myself I doubt I would have be able to ask for help later on. What do you have to lose? They are part of your tribe for a reason. These are women that you love and trust. These are women that are there to support you and make you the best you that you can be. If any of them were finding things tough, would you want them to ask you for help? Would you be willing to help? This support for each other has to work both ways. You get out what you put in. I know that I am a stronger and better person because of my tribe. Thank you ladies. I've got your back like you have mine xxx


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    Peace be unto you. What think ye of Christ? whose Son is He?

    answer from the Bible:
    God was manifest in the flesh, justified in the Spirit, seen of angels, preached unto the Gentiles, believed on in the world, received up into glory. (1 Timothy 3:16).
    This is the true God, and eternal life. (1 John 5:20)
    Behold, a virgin shall be with child, and shall bring forth a son, and they shall call his name Emmanuel, which being interpreted is, God with us. (Matthew 1:23)
    For unto us a child is born, unto us a son is given: and the government shall be upon his shoulder: and his name shall be called Wonderful, Counsellor, The mighty God, The everlasting Father, The Prince of Peace. (Isaiah 9:6)
    And there came a fear on all: and they glorified God, saying, That a great prophet is risen up among us; and, That God hath visited his people.
    And this rumour of him went forth throughout all Judaea, and throughout all the region round about.(Luke 7:16,17)
    And he that seeth Me seeth Him that sent Me. (John 12:45)
    he that receiveth Me receiveth Him that sent Me. (John 13:20)
    the word which ye hear is not Mine, but the Father’s which sent Me. (John 14:24)

    What to do?
    Verily, verily, I say unto you, He that heareth My word, and believeth on Him that sent Me, hath everlasting life, and shall not come into condemnation; but is passed from death unto life. (John 5:24)
    Then said they unto him, What shall we do, that we might work the works of God?
    Jesus answered and said unto them, This is the work of God, that ye believe on him whom he hath sent. (John 6:28,29)
    And brought them out, and said, Sirs, what must I do to be saved?
    And they said, Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved, and thy house. (Acts of the Apostles 16:30,31)
    But he answered and said unto him that told him, Who is my mother? and who are my brethren?
    And he stretched forth his hand toward his disciples, and said, Behold my mother and my brethren!
    For whosoever shall do the will of my Father which is in heaven, the same is my brother, and sister, and mother. (Matthew 12:48-50)
    And this is the Father’s will which hath sent me, that of all which he hath given me I should lose nothing, but should raise it up again at the last day.
    And this is the will of him that sent me, that every one which seeth the Son, and believeth on him, may have everlasting life: and I will raise him up at the last day. (John 6:39,40)
    And this is the Father’s will which hath sent me, that of all which he hath given me I should lose nothing, but should raise it up again at the last day.
    And this is the will of him that sent me, that every one which seeth the Son, and believeth on him, may have everlasting life: and I will raise him up at the last day. (John 6:39,40)
    Those things, which ye have both learned, and received, and heard, and seen in me, do: and the God of peace shall be with you. (Philippians 4:9)

    Peter’s sermon:
    Then Peter opened his mouth, and said, Of a truth I perceive that God is no respecter of persons:
    But in every nation he that feareth him, and worketh righteousness, is accepted with him.
    The word which God sent unto the children of Israel, preaching peace by Jesus Christ: (he is Lord of all)
    That word, I say, ye know, which was published throughout all Judaea, and began from Galilee, after the baptism which John preached;
    How God anointed Jesus of Nazareth with the Holy Ghost and with power: who went about doing good, and healing all that were oppressed of the devil; for God was with him.
    And we are witnesses of all things which he did both in the land of the Jews, and in Jerusalem; whom they slew and hanged on a tree:
    Him God raised up the third day, and shewed him openly;
    Not to all the people, but unto witnesses chosen before of God, even to us, who did eat and drink with him after he rose from the dead.
    And he commanded us to preach unto the people, and to testify that it is he which was ordained of God to be the Judge of quick and dead.
    To him give all the prophets witness, that through his name whosoever believeth in him shall receive remission of sins.(Acts of the Apostles 10:34-43)
    Repent ye therefore, and be converted, that your sins may be blotted out, when the times of refreshing shall come from the presence of the Lord;
    And he shall send Jesus Christ, which before was preached unto you… (Acts of the Apostles 3:19,20)

    What’s next?
    And this gospel of the kingdom shall be preached in all the world for a witness unto all nations; and then shall the end come. (Matthew 24:14)
    He that believeth and is baptized shall be saved; but he that believeth not shall be damned. (Mark 16:16)

    The Second Coming of Jesus Christ:
    Which also said, Ye men of Galilee, why stand ye gazing up into heaven? this same Jesus, which is taken up from you into heaven, shall so come in like manner as ye have seen him go into heaven. (Acts of the Apostles 1:11)
    The sun shall be turned into darkness, and the moon into blood, before that great and notable day of the Lord come… (Acts of the Apostles 2:20)
    And then shall appear the sign of the Son of man in heaven: and then shall all the tribes of the earth mourn, and they shall see the Son of man coming in the clouds of heaven with power and great glory.
    And he shall send his angels with a great sound of a trumpet, and they shall gather together his elect from the four winds, from one end of heaven to the other. (Matthew 24:30,31)
    For the Lord himself shall descend from heaven with a shout, with the voice of the archangel, and with the trump of God: and the dead in Christ shall rise first… (1 Thessalonians 4:16)
    And have hope toward God, which they themselves also allow, that there shall be a resurrection of the dead, both of the just and unjust. (Acts of the Apostles 24:15)
    And many of them that sleep in the dust of the earth shall awake, some to everlasting life, and some to shame and everlasting contempt.
    And they that be wise shall shine as the brightness of the firmament; and they that turn many to righteousness as the stars for ever and ever. (Daniel 12:2,3)
    But go thou thy way till the end be: for thou shalt rest, and stand in thy lot at the end of the days.(Daniel 12:13)

    When the Son of man shall come in his glory, and all the holy angels with him, then shall he sit upon the throne of his glory:
    And before him shall be gathered all nations: and he shall separate them one from another, as a shepherd divideth his sheep from the goats:
    And he shall set the sheep on his right hand, but the goats on the left.
    Then shall the King say unto them on his right hand, Come, ye blessed of my Father, inherit the kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the world:
    For I was an hungred, and ye gave me meat: I was thirsty, and ye gave me drink: I was a stranger, and ye took me in:
    Naked, and ye clothed me: I was sick, and ye visited me: I was in prison, and ye came unto me.
    Then shall the righteous answer him, saying, Lord, when saw we thee an hungred, and fed thee? or thirsty, and gave thee drink?
    When saw we thee a stranger, and took thee in? or naked, and clothed thee?
    Or when saw we thee sick, or in prison, and came unto thee?
    And the King shall answer and say unto them, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me.
    Then shall he say also unto them on the left hand, Depart from me, ye cursed, into everlasting fire, prepared for the devil and his angels:
    For I was an hungred, and ye gave me no meat: I was thirsty, and ye gave me no drink:
    I was a stranger, and ye took me not in: naked, and ye clothed me not: sick, and in prison, and ye visited me not.
    Then shall they also answer him, saying, Lord, when saw we thee an hungred, or athirst, or a stranger, or naked, or sick, or in prison, and did not minister unto thee?
    Then shall he answer them, saying, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye did it not to one of the least of these, ye did it not to me.
    And these shall go away into everlasting punishment: but the righteous into life eternal. (Matthew 25:31-46)
    And if any man hear my words, and believe not, I judge him not: for I came not to judge the world, but to save the world.
    He that rejecteth me, and receiveth not my words, hath one that judgeth him: the word that I have spoken, the same shall judge him in the last day. (John 12:47,48)

    For whom it is written:
    Then Peter said unto him, Lord, speakest thou this parable unto us, or even to all?
    And the Lord said, Who then is that faithful and wise steward, whom his lord shall make ruler over his household, to give them their portion of meat in due season?
    Blessed is that servant, whom his lord when he cometh shall find so doing.
    Of a truth I say unto you, that he will make him ruler over all that he hath.
    But and if that servant say in his heart, My lord delayeth his coming; and shall begin to beat the menservants and maidens, and to eat and drink, and to be drunken;
    The lord of that servant will come in a day when he looketh not for him, and at an hour when he is not aware, and will cut him in sunder, and will appoint him his portion with the unbelievers.(Luke 12:41-46)

    Eyewitness accounts:
    For we have not followed cunningly devised fables, when we made known unto you the power and coming of our Lord Jesus Christ, but were eyewitnesses of his majesty. (2 Peter 1:16)
    For I delivered unto you first of all that which I also received, how that Christ died for our sins according to the scriptures;
    And that he was buried, and that he rose again the third day according to the scriptures:
    And that he was seen of Cephas, then of the twelve:
    After that, he was seen of above five hundred brethren at once; of whom the greater part remain unto this present, but some are fallen asleep.
    After that, he was seen of James; then of all the apostles. (1 Corinthians 15:3-7)
    Even as they delivered them unto us, which from the beginning were eyewitnesses, and ministers of the word… (Luke 1:2)

    The prayer of Jesus Christ:
    I pray for them: I pray not for the world, but for them which thou hast given me; for they are thine. (John 17:9)
    I pray not that thou shouldest take them out of the world, but that thou shouldest keep them from the evil. (John 17:15)
    Neither pray I for these alone, but for them also which shall believe on me through their word… (John 17:20)

    Why is important?
    For the eyes of the Lord are over the righteous, and his ears are open unto their prayers: but the face of the Lord is against them that do evil. (1 Peter 3:12)

    Behold, I come quickly: hold that fast which thou hast, that no man take thy crown. (Revelation 3:11)

    Jesus saith unto him, Thomas, because thou hast seen me, thou hast believed: blessed are they that have not seen, and yet have believed.
    And many other signs truly did Jesus in the presence of his disciples, which are not written in this book:
    But these are written, that ye might believe that Jesus is the Christ, the Son of God; and that believing ye might have life through his name. (John 20:29-31)

    Because Man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word that proceedeth out of the mouth of God. (Matthew 4:4)

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